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By Dan Bacon

Feminine women are most attracted to men who possess alpha male qualities. Said another way - the more masculine you become, the more that feminine women will be naturally attracted to you. Why?

Because the masculine traits of your personality will allow women to enjoy the irresistible feelings that can only come from strong sexual polarity (i.e. the natural charge of sexual tension between man & woman).

The opposite is also true: The more feminine you are, the more that masculine women will be naturally attracted to you. What do I mean by masculine women?

Well, have you ever met a woman who was masculine in her behaviors and looks? These women literally make you feel like you”re dealing with a man. If you imagine having sex with her, you may feel a little nauseas.

So, start working on developing your masculine traits / alpha male qualities and make yourself more naturally attractive to the right sorts of women. Here are some Dos and Don”ts to help you understand how this applies to your interactions and relationships with women:

Do Encourage Her When She Huddles into You to Feel Safe: “Yeah, that’’s right…come here” or “Yeah, that’’s my girl…come here,” and kiss her like she is your little girl (on the forehead, the cheek, on her closed eyelids) followed by kisses you would give a woman (her lips, her neck, the rest of her body).

Do Subtly Encourage Her to be Feminine in Every Way: An example of a woman’’s physical desire to be feminine is the way she wears her clothes. Encourage her to wear sexy or feminine clothing privately and when in public.

Be proud of her and her femininity. Don”t try to hide if from other guys in fear that they”ll take her from you. If a woman picks up on that, it can often cause a huge loss of emotional attraction.

An example of a woman’’s emotional desire to be feminine is to feel protected by a man. Don”t get angry or frustrated at her for being scared of danger. Instead, make her feel safe that she has you there and you will satisfy a deep part of her primal being. If you are interacting with a woman and she starts giggling in a cute/girly way around you, make sure you encourage that behavior.

Example: Smile at her like a daddy would to his little girl and say, “I like it when you get all cute like that. It’’s sexy.”

Do Open Doors For Her: Not like a submissive slave, but as her MAN/protector. She is your little princess and can be a beacon of femininity for you if you allow her to be.

Do Take the Lead: Make decisions on where you are going to go on the date. Do this for at least the first 5 to 10 dates and she will be happy that you are leading the way.

Everyone once in a while, reward her good behavior by letting her take the lead on little things (e.g. What wine to drink).

Do Pay Attention to Her, Sometimes: Make her feel like your attention can be fixed on her at times. Allow her to sense that you are open to feeling and praising her feminine being.

But don”t overdo it. Remember the Yin & Yang circle and aim to create the right balance, so that when you do fix your attention on her it is charming.

Do Assume That She Loves Sex: Don”t get fooled by her nice nature; she loves to be sexed by a man. Women want you to encourage their submissive side, so they can fully let go and feel highly emotional during sex. That will only happen if you behave like a man and allow her to behave and think like a woman.

Don”t Make Her Behave Like a Man: If you want to experience the amazing feelings that come from sexual polarity, you do not want to treat your woman like she is a man.

You want to evoke and encourage her femininity to be at its fullest potential around you. If you always treat her like a man and talk and joke around with her like she’’s one of your male buddies, she will be required to close off her feminine energy and open up her masculine side.

You do not want her to be behaving in masculine on a regular basis. Why?

1) She will become unsatisfied.
2) She won”t feel like a woman at her core
3) She will naturally look to other sources (which may include other men) to give her the feelings she truly desires.

Examples of a woman behaving in a masculine way: Taking the lead. hugging you while you complain and whine about the world or mothering you.

If you want to achieve full success with women & dating, and become the guy that women truly desire and never want to leave - focus on building your alpha male qualities.

About The Author

Dan Bacon is the CEO of TheModernMan.com who provide dating advice for men.

http://www.themodernman.com/how_to_seduce_a_woman.html
http://www.themodernman.com/body_language.html
http://www.themodernman.com/how_to_become_an_alpha_male.html
http://www.themodernman.com/approach_anxiety.html

By Shane Hester

Millions of people search the internet everyday looking for true love, sex, pen pals, romance and so forth. It is no wonder why e-marketers have jumped on the dating site band wagon.

But why must they flood the internet with so called dating sites that are nothing more than adsense links that redirect surfers to other sites that usually, are nothing more than adsense dating sites as well.

This is a great income maker for e-marketers, but such tactics do nothing for the real dating services that need real people to join in order to continue providing the aforementioned service. Not to mention the added cost of advertising on services like adwords and overture.

The increase in marketing cost also hurts the consumer, due to increased prices that are being passed along from the dating sites. This is what online dating has come to; worthless, time consuming surfing and increased cost for people who want to start dating and continue dating online.

Well guess what e-marketers, if this trend continues along the path it is on, paid subscriptions for online dating will become a thing of the past as free dating will be the only dating services left and that means those adsense sites you have spent so much time making, will not be making anymore money because the only companies paying to advertise will be you! How do you like that catch twenty-two scenario?

I have an idea. Why not create a real site to promote and tell visitors which dating service they are being sent to. There are such things as affiliate programs that will pay you for promoting a real service and at the same time, make it easy and convenient for people visiting your site.

Now, do not get me wrong. I do believe in the Adsense marketing system. It is a very helpful tool when used the right way. Adsense was not created for marketers to build websites based solely on promotional ads. It was built for marketers who have an existing website and would like to make additional income from their site by placing relevant ads from other companies on their website and in return, receive a share of the earnings. In addition, said marketers have another way to promote their site by having ads placed in the content of other related sites.

There are plenty of dating sites on the web that are using the Adsense system correctly and have very satisfied members. But these sites are not where the problem lies. The problem comes from sites that are not really dating sites and have no real connection to any real dating site or service.

E-marketers simply build pages with just enough keywords to get the dating ads from Adsense to appear on their pages and then plaster these pages over the internet for surfers to access. When surfers find these pages, and there is nothing on the pages except for the Adsense ads, there is a high probability that they will click one of the ads thinking that they are going to a part of the site they are on. But surprise, surprise, they are now back on the dating site they chose not to join thirty minutes ago.

This happens very often on the internet nowadays; not just on dating sites either. One of the main culprits to this is sparked from Adwords. Yes. Adwords. Marketers are allowed to post a different web address to be visible in the ad from what their actual web address really is. If everyone posted the actual web address, surfers would be able to see where the link is sending them to before they click. (This is a helpful tip that will save good marketers from paying for worthless clicks.)

Let us talk about people looking for love. Most people that are looking to join a dating site have either already tried some of the mainstream dating services or just do not know which one to join. The last thing they need is to be detoured from trying online adult dating because of the aggravation of said e-marketers.

In summary, stop wasting everyones time and costing companies. If you want to make money with Adsense on a dating site or any other site for that matter, go build a real site whether it is an affiliate site, co-brand or your own site and place Adsense ads in a way that lets people know that these are not links to pages of your site. You will find that there is plenty of money to be made using this technique and you will cause no inconvenience for surfers.

About The Author

Shane Hester sets the scene for singles.
A whole world awaits curious eyes and eager adults.
Find out how to improve your dating experiences at my website which is at http://www.officialsingle-no-more.com

By Dan Bacon

If you want to enjoy lasting conversations with women, focus on being natural and real - rather than using pick up lines or pretending to be someone you”re not.

I remember when I first started approaching women. Not knowing what to say was one of my biggest problems, second only to the confidence to actually approach women in the first place!

It’’s funny looking back on those days. For about a year and a half, I tried using all sorts of scripted pick up lines or seduction routines (that I learnt from dodgy internet sites) and felt like a phony.

Women could see that I wasn”t being real and that I was trying to pick them up by using some sort of seduction game, which made them feel uneasy around me.

Consequently, I got with no women for a very long time. Eventually, when I did build more confidence in myself and learnt how to be an alpha male - I started talking much more freely when I approached women.

I no longer felt the need to use scripted pick up lines to impress women and instead of being stuck for something to say, I”d just walk up and start chatting naturally.

Today, I”m going to give you one of my natural conversation techniques that will help you get through one of most awkward parts of an initial interaction with women. That is: What to say after the conversation starter.

I call this conversation technique ”Adventure Trailing” and it always works like a charm.

You see, women are attracted to guys who can offer them some value. Guys who actually have a life of their own and aren”t looking to a woman to ”give them a life.”

It’’s one of those ‘’subtle” but powerful personality traits that will set you apart from most guys. Here’’s an example:

I walk over to some women and use a conversation starter and then after the introductions, I”ll say something like:

“Yeah, we just got here. We started off at [insert name of bar/restaurant/cafe for a quiet drink and thought we”d come and check this place out. Loving the vibe in here, it’’s awesome - how about you guys…what’’s been going on tonight?”

Now let’’s have a look at how using the Adventure Trailing technique sets you apart from all the other guys.

- It demonstrates that you have a life of your own going on.
- Most guys walk up to women and try to join ”their world”

“Hey girls, havin” a good night?” In other words, “Hey girls, can we join you?”

By using the Adventure Trailing technique, you demonstrate that things are happening in your world.

- It helps start the interaction on an easy-going, social level, where you”re just being social, rather than trying to pick up.
- It helps give the women a sense of your personality, as you express what you”re saying with attractive body language and tonality.
- It puts the women ”on the spot” at the end of what you”re saying, because now they have to tell you what they”ve been up to.
Just make sure you ask the question in an easy-going way. You”re not aiming to make them feel uncomfortable!
- It helps bring the women into the conversation, by way of ending your statement with a question.

It may be a surprise to you, to realize that most women do not have good social skills. So, helping women into conversations with you will pay huge dividends.

That Adventure Trailing technique took me years of approaching women to work out. You”ve just collected it in a couple of minutes!

Here are some more conversation techniques that will ensure successful conversation with women:

a) Listen: Most guys get so caught up in trying to impress women, or get the bedroom - that they fail to listen to what the girl is talking about. If a woman notices that you”re not listening and are just trying to pick her up ”asap”, then she will put her defenses up…and rightly so.

b) Be expressive: A lot of guys are too afraid to express their real opinions, values or emotions on a particular topic. However, find it charming when a man displays alpha male qualities by stating what he really thinks about a situation, idea, etc.

c) Use humor: Humor is one of man’’s greatest weapons in the dating game. If you don”t know how to use, humor in an interaction with women - you need to find out.

d) Don”t be a nice guy: Trying to be overly nice or polite won”t cut it.

Most women know when a man is being a Mr. Nice Guy in an attempt to win her over. Focus on being real, natural and on being an alpha male who knows how to flirt, chat and have a great time during interactions, dates and relationships with women.

About The Author

Dan Bacon is the CEO of TheModernMan.com who provide dating advice for men.

http://www.themodernman.com/the_flow.html
http://www.themodernman.com/what_women_want.html
http://www.themodernman.com/nice_guys.html
http://www.themodernman.com/get_laid.html

By Dan Bacon

When you”re interacting with a woman that you have a sexual interest in, it’’s very important that you are not boring. Why?

Because one of the most attractive personality traits a man can have is the ability to use humor. Today, I”m going to give you some funny one liners to use when interacting with women.

At some point in an initial interaction, a woman will usually ask the classis question, “So what do you do?” This provides you with a great opportunity to use some funny one liners and demonstrate the attractive personality trait of humor.

You have a few options. First you might like to joke around and say, “I”m an actor, I just got a leading role on [insert the latest hit show on TV]” and have her say, “Really?” to your reply of a slight chuckle and possibly a playful jab or tickle to make her laugh more.

She might then reply with something like “No, c”mon -what do you really do?” and you can say something like:

- Nothing. Yes, that’’s right. I”m actually looking for a rich girl who will support me…because I want to be one of those stay-at-home husbands, y”know? Look after the TV, watch Oprah and all that sort of stuff. Is that okay with you?

Or, you might want to have her guess: “Guess” (for 1 or 2 times and then tell her the real answer). Or, make it out like she isn”t cool enough for you: “Ohh…well, I don”t know if you could handle the answer. After all, you look a little innocent.”

The following funny one liner will help steer the conversation towards sex.

You: Hmmm…I don”t usually tell people like you. You look like you might get offended
Her: Why? What is it?
You: Well…it involves the lower part of my body.
Her (Here a lot of women will try to be funny and play along): What, like a podiatrist?
You: Nope, guess again.
Her: A foot masseuse?
You: Nope - go a little higher (point to your crotch and give a little cheeky grin).
Her: Haha! A gigalo!
You (Looking seriously offended and taken back): No actually I model men’’s underwear. I can”t believe you think I”m a man-whore! I”m going to charge you double!
Her: Haha!

You might also want to reverse the question about your occupation, make it out like she is trying to pick you up and comment that you”re not going to fall for her sleazy pick-up tricks.

Beautiful women are not expecting these sorts of funny one liners from men and as such, the emotion they get from your unpredictable behavior sparks a strong attraction.

- Whoa, are you trying to find out if I”m rich? I mean, we”ve only just met and you”re already behaving like a gold-digger…geez, you”re pretty full on.
- Look…I don”t want to marry you yet, ok? We”ve just met. I work as a masseuse. Is that ok? Good. Now when do you want your first appointment? I accept Visa, Mastercard and Diners, but not American Express because they charge me an extra 2% per transaction!

You: What do I do? Hmmm, very forward of you…are you trying to pick me up???
Her: What? No! Haha!
You: Yes you are!(Playfully tickle or poke her, or just shake your head as if you are ashamed for her). Alright, so I”ll tell you what I do…but no marriage proposals, ok?
Her: Ok.
You: I”m a masseuse, a salsa dance teacher and a rock n roll star.
Her: (Most likely laughing).

The same funny one liner rules apply when a woman asks for your name:

- Brad…Brat Pitt.
- James…James Bond.
- Peter Russelloffanonanonanon.
- Dracula.

If she laughs at your response, emotion is present. If she becomes playfully frustrated at your response, emotion is present. And if you don”t already know - the most important thing is how you make a woman feel.

If you can use humor to make women feel great emotions, it won”t matter if you”re 3 feet tall, with no teeth - she will feel attraction for you. However, if you were to answer her questions logically, no strong emotion would be present and you”d simply be two strangers getting to know each other in a non-sexual way.

Disclaimer: A woman will get annoyed if she can never get a straight answer from you. Once you notice that she is actually interested in talking to you, ease up on the funny one liners a little and change gears to develop a connection with her.

About The Author

Dan Bacon is the CEO of TheModernMan.com who provide dating advice for men.

http://www.themodernman.com/how_to_seduce_a_woman.html
http://www.themodernman.com/body_language.html
http://www.themodernman.com/how_to_attract_women.html
http://www.themodernman.com/best_pick_up_lines.html

By Dan Bacon

Women love funny guys. However, don”t confuse it with being ”goofy.”

It’’s very easy to be funny by being goofy and having others laugh at you - but it is not good. Why? When people are laughing at you, you are generally lower in social status than they are.

Ever seen a documentary with hyenas? The omega male is the one that always gets picked on and overpowered. He eats last and almost never gets to breed with the females.

Why? The offspring he would create might have his omega genes and possibly inherit his behaviors, thus making it hard for them to survive.

Much is the same with humans. If you are being the ”goof of the group” and people are always laughing at you, then you will be selected last (if at all) by females.

Instead of being someone to laugh at, you should focus on showing others how to laugh at life, themselves and situations. Help people laugh about the weird, charming, goofy and funny nature of things.

You”ll notice that I included ”goofy.” Yes, you can still engage in goofy humor. It’’s playful, disarming and I personally love it. Just don”t be a goof to laugh at.

I”m also not suggesting that you take yourself ultra-seriously and never allow anyone to have a laugh at your expense. Just don”t encourage it in order to get the approval or attention of those around you.

If others laugh at something you said or did, have enough confidence to laugh with them, or reverse the joke back on the person/people.

For example: You walk out of the bathroom and your zipper is undone. Suddenly, your friend John points, laughs and begins the subtle social process of having everyone get involved and laugh at you.

You stop walking. Remaining composed, you begin to nod slowly. With a grin on your face, you say, “I knew it - John is secretly gay! What’’s the first thing he looks at when I walk into a room? My zipper - John, you have issues man.”

Congratulations. You have just defused the situation and John probably feels a little silly for pointing it out. He may just think twice before trying that sort of thing on you again.

Note: Be playful with this kind of behavior. Don”t become the loser who tries to make people feel lousy in front of others. The point is to maintain your air of social status, while being playful and not becoming the butt of jokes.

There are many ways to be funny in an attractive way. However, you must remember that no technique or funny line will be a quick fix for success with women and dating.

Being funny includes more than funny lines or jokes. Pick out the funniest comedian you know (Eddie Murphy, Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock, etc) and repeat one of their jokes to your friends.

Why is it that the joke sounds better coming from the comedian than it does from you? It’’s because something else is going on when the successful comedian is telling the joke.

Pay attention to:

- Their level of confidence.
- Their body language, especially facial expressions.
- Well-placed tonality changes.
- When and how they pause for effect before delivering punch lines.
- Their verbal and non-verbal reactions they make when people start laughing at their jokes.
- How they structure their stories.
- How they insert bits from previous jokes into new stories for extra laughs (i.e. callback humor).

More tips on how to be funny:

- Watch comedy movies.
- Listen to audio recordings of successful male comedians.
- Don”t try to impress women with humor

Being funny and entertaining can spark massive attraction. However, a woman will lose her attraction for you the moment she senses you”re doing it to impress her.

Why? She will realize that you see her as the prize to be won and it will usually kill off most of the attraction she has for you.

So, never try to win a woman over by being a performing monkey. It simply does not work.

She may be laughing and giggling at things you are saying/doing, but secretly she will see you as having entertainment value rather than sexual value.

If she perceives you as her entertainer and you try to escalate to any form of intimacy, you will most likely be flatly rejected.

About The Author

Dan Bacon is the CEO of TheModernMan.com who provide dating advice for men.

http://www.themodernman.com/the_flow.html
http://www.themodernman.com/get_laid.html
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By David Steele

In the pre-commitment stage when singles become couples, each partner has different hopes and dreams, wants and needs, attitudes and experiences. These differences too often result in relationship failure and disappointment when one or both partners attempt to mold the relationship and their partner to fit what they want, rather than accepting and embracing what is. While we must have a vision and requirements and choose a partner and relationship aligned with what we want, we can”t be so rigid that we reject reality.

How do we let go of needing perfection without settling for less than what we really want? One strategy I recommend for Conscious Mating is to “experience your experience.”

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO “EXPERIENCE YOUR EXPERIENCE?”

Your “experience” is what happens inside of you. It happens automatically. It’’s the thoughts that pop into your head, the sensations you have in your body; what you see, hear, feel, touch and taste. It’’s what you are feeling emotionally.

Your experience just happens. You go to a movie and you love the movie and you feel tingly and warm, that is your experience of the movie; you have a positive experience of it. You go to a movie and it scares you, turns you off, you hate it and it repulses you; you have a negative experience of the movie.

Your experience is involuntary. It just happens and it always happens in the now, so you must be present in the now to experience your experience; you can”t be in the past, thinking about what was, and you can”t be in the future, thinking about what will be.

Relationships only happen in the present. Connection can only happen in the present. To be in touch with what is real for us and to have a fulfilling relationship we must be able to experience our experience.

So “experience your experience” means to be present, be in the now, experiencing what is going on for you right now, and what’’s real for you right now, instead of your fantasies about what will be and your associations about what was in the past.

Experiencing your experience is important because too often we bring our past baggage into a relationship, we don”t see the person and the relationship for what it is, we are too busy coloring it with the past, or we are absorbed in fantasy about the future, about what it might be and could be and will be.

EXPERIENCE HAPPENS FIRST

Your experience is what’’s real for you, and you get to decide what it means. If you went to a movie and it repulsed you, then you might make up a story, an interpretation of your experience, that the movie was horrible, it was the worst movie ever made. That’’s because of your experience.

Your experience results in your stories or your interpretations and meanings, and then what you might do is tell everybody you know, “That was the worst movie. Don”t see it.” So your stories, which come from your experience, then result in your actions or what you say and do.

EVOLVE VS. PUSH VS. TWIST

In the pre-commitment stage it’’s important to allow a relationship to evolve and be what it is, instead of trying to push it to happen faster, or twist the relationship (or partner) to be what you want it to be. I recommend taking the time to get to know who your partner really is, instead of focusing on your fantasies, hopes and dreams. Experience your experience, embrace “what is,” and stay in the now so you are gounded in reality about your partner and relationship.

TRIAD FOR CREATING LASTING LOVE

To effectively “experience your experience” I”ve found it helpful to stay conscious of three aspects of your experience-

Facts- usually a measureable event (”the sky is blue”)

Judgments- the meaning we make of the event (”the blue sky is pretty”)

Feelings- our emotions and sensations (warm, cold, happy, sad, etc)

Often, what we human beings do, especially when we”re upset or excited, is we make judgments about something and try to make that be the fact-

“You make me so angry.” “You”re a jerk.” “I love you.” “War is hell.” “Ice cream is good.”

These are all judgments. You might feel so strongly about them that you believe them to be true. While they might be your personal truth at the time, they are not facts, no matter how strongly you believe them to be true.

It all starts with an event or stimulus. Something happens that gives us a certain experience.

Then, we react to our experience by making meaning of it and forming judgments.

Then, our judgments stimulate our emotions- mad, sad, glad, fear, shame.

And this all happens in the blink of an eye.

We can then react consciously or unconsciously. If we react unconsciously we will act out our feelings and judgments, whatever they are.

FINDING LASTING LOVE BY EXPERIENCING YOUR EXPERIENCE

Strive to stay grounded in the reality of what is and make your decisions based on reality, instead of trying to make the relationship be what you want it to be. It’’s a fine line, because we do have a vision, we do have requirements, needs, and wants, and our agenda is to live that vision and get those requirements, needs, and wants met. But to find lasting love we must choose a partner that’’s truly aligned with our needs and work with that partner in a reality-based way by experiencing our experience each and every day.

About The Author

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’’s World. http://www.ConsciousDating.com/book.htm

By Andey Randead

Women are and will always be the smarter superior sex. In being smarter they calculate things better. For example when men cheat it is more spontaneous. Unlike women, men can”t just go out any night of the week and get laid.

Their opportunities in that regard are more limited, therefore when one arises they have to act on it usually right then or loose it forever. Any night a woman goes out she can get it if she really wants to. That’’s just a simple fact of life; women can have sex whenever they want. Men can”t.

As a result men are more likely to screw up in getting caught. He can”t pick and choose when, where or with whom his opportunity will happen. He also can”t control as well as women his desire for sex. Men’’s desire is more of a physical one; women’’s is more of an emotional one.

Women’’s intimate desires are more controllable than the physical testosterone calling. When it calls and there’’s an opportunity, look out. Women on the other hand can plan to get their strange sex. They will go out of town, plan a shopping trip with the girls or something like that.

Also when women cheat their dealing with a strange guy who is more than likely happy with just a one night stand and leaving it at that. When men cheat they are dealing with a female who likely isn”t so happy just to have a one night”er. She may seek more and pursue him. This may eventually lead to her making sure his wife finds out about it and causes him to get caught. That’’s why it seems that men cheat more than women.

Women actually cheat just about as much as men, they just don”t get caught as often. Because they can control their opportunities and desires more, they are better able to pick and choose their time, place and person. That combination will be such that will ensure that they don”t get caught.

Men on the other hand have to take it when its there, regardless of the risk, therefore they get caught more. So guys, look out when your woman goes away. I”m not saying that they cheat whenever they go away; I”m saying that if they are looking to cheat, they will do it when they go away.

Women do aspire to the “If no one knows about it, it didn”t happen” mindset. Regardless of what they do, if no one knows about it or they didn”t get caught, it didn”t happen and they will go to their death claiming it didn”t happen.

Men periodically admit wrong doings; sometimes their conscience makes them admit to things even if their spouse did not know of them. Females would never allow their conscience to get to them that way. They would never feel guilty enough to admit to anything that wasn”t known, not unless it worked to her advantage to do so.

The only other reason she would spill is if she was convinced there was a chance that something about what she did will get back to her spouse and in that case she will want to put her version of events forward first. Of coarse her version won”t be anything close to the truth but will be designed to provide her deniability if he hears from someone else later.

Her selfish desire to maintain her purity is much stronger than their conscience would ever be. They would never be that basic or simple to just give something like that to their spouse, another indicator of their self-righteousness.

Although most of the time men and women have reasons to cheat, men a lot of times just need some “strange”. Men’’s biological urges and instincts, which are ingrained in his make up, order him to bed as many women as he can. Although he can curtail that instinct for a while when he is in a happy relationship, eventually he will need some “strange”.

Monogamy is a scary word for men. Just about as scary as commitment. Probably one of the things men fear the most about commitment is monogamy. They don”t ever want to think that they will only be able to bed one women for the rest of his life. That is extremely frightening to most men. Sometimes when men cheat there really is no explainable cause. It’’s just that he needed and wanted some “strange”.

Men don”t need the intimacy that women do. When women are finished having sex they crave intimacy then more than even. They want to feel your presence and cuddle, further enjoying the intimate experience they just had. That’’s the estrogen and instinctual part of women.

Men on the other hand can”t get the hell out fast enough when they are finished. That’’s the testosterone instinctual side of men. They want out and go home or to sleep. The last thing they want is to further prolong the experience and cuddle. They want to rest and prepare for the next female. To a man the definition of “eternity” is from the time he finished ”til the time you get home. That’’s frigging eternity.

Now, I will acknowledge that females also desire “strange” periodically but it’’s different with them. They need to know they”re attractive to another man. They periodically want to know that a strange guy is trying to seduce her. That’’s he’’s attracted to her and the whole seduction, flirtation, emotionally side of it is what she seeks.

Not so much the dive in and do it with strange. Not that females will not ultimately do it, they will, however with guys its all about the diving in and doing it, with females its more about the attention, flirting and just knowing that a guy wants to screw her and finds her attractive. That’’s the part of strange women need periodically.

The fact is that as birds can”t fight their instinct to fly out of their nest when its time, like geese can”t stop flying south in the winter, like bears can”t refuse to hibernate over winter, men can not fight their natural, biological, instinctual urges either. When the urge is there they must act on it.

Unfortunately for women, that urge is to go and get some “strange” once in a while. Nothing she can do will change that. No matter how hot she is and how sexy she dresses, to her man she is not “strange”. When he needs strange, his mate will not do. Plain and simple. Can”t fight nature ladies.

About The Author

Andey Randead is the author of “The Great Female Con”, a highly controvertial account of many current relationship issues. His book can be previewed at http://www.thegreatfemalecon.com