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By Ron McDiarmid

Of course if you are seeking to find a relationship then chances are pretty strong that you are going to want someone that you have things in common with.

For example, if you are physically fit, like to work out and watch your diets then you are not going to want to try and pair up with someone that could care less about those things.

Your first call of action is to figure out what it is that you do want from a relationship. Sometimes the easiest way to accomplish this is to figure out first what it is that you do not want.

Make a written list of likes and dislikes as this is surely to give you a very keen observation of what it is that you have been focusing all of your attention and efforts on. Focus further on nothing but the positive that you have written down and keep pumping the universe with those positive thoughts.

If you resist what it is that you say that you want then you will not get it. In other words you can not say this is what I want and then resist it.

If you say you want this beautiful, fun loving new relationship but you focus upon the lack of it going to get the lack of it. Keep a visual going in your mind about your perfect partner just as if this person was already real, named and had a face. Again, remember to focus on only positive qualities and ignore any negative.

Your entire world is a reflection of what you focus on. If you don”t like what is going on around you and who you seem to be attracting then you have to start changing your thought process on the inside in order to mend the outside.

Everything in the universe is made of energy; energy vibrates, and those vibrations attract like vibrations. As you vibrate, you attract. Do you approach each new love interest with an inner fear and expectation that they wont like you once they get to know her?

Are you braced for rejection before you even have the first date? If this sounds like you then you are vibrating rejection and that is what will happen each and every time. If you have relationships or not they are a reflection of what it is that you think and feel.

About The Author

Ron McDiarmid is one of the worlds most successful personal development coaches. Find out how you can attract your soul mate by learning the law of attraction techniques
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By Terry Leslie

Men are most definitely the “fixers.” Women tend to want to change men and men tend to want to “fix” women. From a distance, it is actually almost comical. However, if both partners back up a minute, stop fixing and changing and trying to manipulate all these grand little changes they would rather see, so much more productive time would come out of even the bad moments.

If you believe that you can fix you partner’’s problems then you most definitely think you have the power of super human capabilities. You just can”t. Not really. You might have the power to make it better for awhile or tolerable, but you really do not have the power to change the world to make your partner happy. On the flip side, you can”t fix your mate, either. Chances are pretty good that they aren”t even broken. If you are thinking that you can fix them however, you are sending out the message that you believe that they are broken, and this leads to a very unhealthy relationship.

Fixing you partner’’s problems or addressing the everyday flaws that we were all saddled with is all in the power of the individual. If someone wants to change, they will. If they don”t, well then, good luck. That is human nature and that is the most honest we can be with ourselves. Let’’s say your partner is upset. Stop fixing and just listen. Listen with complete attention. Stop multitasking and just listen. Repeat phrases and clarify as necessary to make sure you are really getting it, and then simply ask them what they want to do about it.

If you have been fixing your partner for awhile, your response might not be appreciated the first few times. However, you have the capability to just explain that you feel they are competent enough to find a solution. In just that one moment, you have two incredibly important things in your relationship. You have truly heard what is in your partner’’s heart and you have allowed them to take responsibility for their own actions, which makes them so much less victim”like it’’s not even funny.

Women do need to have a partner in the house and don”t need to be turned into the house maid. If there is one element that you really can fix it is helping her out more so that she can put a higher priority on things outside of housework and chores. For men, there will always be a battle of the sexes when it comes to doing chores.

Men haven”t been nurtured in their youth to be the most obsessive home makers. But what matters is the way you both feel at the end of the day. And I can attest personally to the fact that if you help out instead of “fixing” there is more time and more energy left when it is time for the lights to go out. That usually means that there is more time for a little fun at bed time.

The best relationships out there are ones that are based on mutual respect. When partners respect both the spoken word and the home front tasks, couples tend to be able to really communicate better and live together better than ever before. Long gone are the happy home maker days and here are the new age equality days.

About The Author

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