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By Iain Stubley

Almost any single person, male or female, loves internet dating sites because they allow a person to go window shopping for a partner and see all that is available before they commit. A lot of people who join, especially as free members, just look at the pictures! In fact, there is often no point writing to a free member, because in most cases they cannot even read your message, and they are probably not seriously looking. Something you will want to concentrate on when you are dating online is not wasting time on women who are not looking for a real-life meeting.

This is also a problem with sites that do not have a paid membership at all but rely on third party advertising to make money. While some people may be genuine, a lot of the members will have joined just because it’’s free. They may not be seriously looking for anyone to date and you could waste a lot of time on them. A paid site is usually worth the small monthly investment for this reason alone.

When you have exchanged a couple of messages, you will quickly want to move on to arrange a date with the women that you like. Often, however, you will find the woman does not want to move so fast. There can be many reasons for this and it does not necessarily mean she is not serious. She may have told more than she intended and may be nervous of meeting someone who already knows a lot about her. More likely, she is afraid because she is constantly hearing about the scary things that can happen to girls who meet men they have gotten to know online.

A lot of women like the anonymity of exchanging messages on a dating site and the opportunity it gives them of getting to know a guy without revealing their name, address etc. Seems like the more you try to get them to give you their phone number, the more they pull away.

It is easy to become impatient but it is very important at this stage not to push too hard. Try giving her your number instead of asking for hers. If you can give her your home number, not just your cellphone, this is great because it will show her that you are not married or living with another lady.

You may still have to talk a couple of times on the phone before she will agree to a date. Keep in mind all the advice that dating sites give, and arrange the first meeting in a public place. Make it somewhere that you will have a chance to talk a little, like a restaurant or bar. She may prefer to meet in a place that she knows, so give her the option of suggesting the location. The place she picks out can tell you a lot about her, too.

Before the date, read her messages over again and be sure to remember any little things that she told you about herself. If you are in contact with a lot of women on the dating site, it’’s very important not to get them mixed! You may even want to take notes of phone conversations. Remembering little details is a great way to make the woman feel special on the date.

Make her feel safe, then make her feel special - these are the keys to hot internet dating success!

About The Author

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By Steven Walters

If you search the internet for stories of foreign men falling in love with Thai girls you”re bound to find hundreds of posts articles and stories that have been written over the years. The funny thing is many of the stories you”ll find end badly. The reason for this is pretty apparent.

Typically you”ll see in the story that the writer has been warned about Thai bar girls and yet they continue on thinking “it will never happen to me”. Every month there are stories to be found about Americans, Australians and Europeans either being bankrupted or even committing suicide in Pattaya and Patong over Thai bar girls. We may never know the entire truth about these tragedies, but they carry a similar theme.
What is it that makes men ignore the fact that many relationships with Thai bar girls end so badly? Why do they think that they are different and that their Thai girlfriend will work out as a romance or marriage, even though she’’s come from the type of life lived in the bars?

Would these men behave the same way, with the same expectations in their home countries? Would they shack up with a prostitute and expect her to be loving and faithful? I don”t really think so, and it makes me scratch my head to think they have these expectations simply because they are in Thailand.

Maybe they only do this in Thailand because they can”t afford it in their home countries. Or maybe they somehow lose their minds in the craziness that is Thailand. Perhaps it’’s their own way of coping with culture shock. Whatever the case, if you”re in a relationship with a Thai girl take a look at this list of questions you should be asking yourself:

1. Does your wife or girlfriend hide her phone calls? Does she get calls at all hours of the night? Doesn”t that make you suspicious? It should.

2. Is your girlfriend or wife always asking for money to send home? Is it the same amount each month? Not definitive, but could indicate a boyfriend or husband back in the home village that she is supporting.

3. If your Thai girl has piercings besides her ears or tattoos it a big warning sign of a bar girl or former bar girl. Good Thai girls don”t do this. This is changing somewhat for the younger generation however so may not be conclusive if your wife or girlfriend is under 25.

4. The biggest indicator of all. Are her friends involved in prostitution? As with any other profession or lifestyle, like types tend to be drawn together because of similar experiences.

The best thing to do is just practice common sense. I know it’’s easy to lose your bearings when seeing all the beautiful available girls in Thailand, but try to maintain a sense of normalcy. You may not be used to so much attention from beautiful girls, but get used to it, it’’s just like that in Thailand for a foreigner.

Try to think with your higher brain, not the one between your legs. While your new life in Thailand may seem surreal at times try to maintain a sense of reality amongst the insanity. Keep your usual filters about what is right and wrong in place. Too many men seem to deal with the newness of Thailand by setting up a new category in their brain called “This is Thailand”. Anything new or strange gets put through this filter and passes simply because “This is Thailand”" and not the same as your homeland. Some things really are the same dude.

The same evasive behavior from your girlfriend that would set off alarms in your home country should be setting off alarms here in Thailand. Just because all else is different around you doesn”t mean that it’’s normal for your new girlfriend to hide things from you or fly off into abusive rages at no provocation.

Listen to your inner voice and if it’’s telling you something is wrong then get away. Things may be different in Thailand, but girls are girls everywhere and Thai girls are not that much different from the girls at home. Girls at home lie and cheat and guess what, so do Thai girls. It’’s still not the norm, but it is common, especially for the girls that tend to be attracted to foreigners in the first place. Take your time and find a nice Thai girl and you”ll be much happier in the long run.

About The Author

You can read more about the fascinating country of Thailand at the authors website http://www.thailandmusings.com